A Look at Children's Feelings on Divorce

A child's mind is filled with negative feelings when their parents get divorced. Many think they can remedy the situation since they think they caused it in the first place. It's also common that they worry that their parents have stopped loving them too. There are new living arrangements to get used to and financial strains that didn't exist before. Children would do anything in their power to stop the divorce and save the marriage.

Everything has changed no matter who ends up with custody. Instead of Mom being able to stay home like she used to, she's now forced to work, maybe even two jobs, just to make ends meet. Large child support payments can make life very difficult too. Parents may be distracted, depressed, and even cry a lot, and children pick up on every bit of it. They definitely don't understand why there is so much sadness if this is what their parents want to do.

This can make it hard for them to do well in school. All he can think about is how things used to be compared to how they are now. It's very hard for children to understand why their parents don't love each other anymore. Children just think their parents should buckle up and try harder in order to set things back right. You tell them you'll always love them, but how can they be sure when your love for each other died?

Children these days can see what real marital problems are, especially if they visit a friend's house. They've seen things like Billy's dad hit his mom, and they know that one time he hit her so hard her arm was broken. Although his dad seemingly hates his spouse, the two of them haven't split up. They wonder why if your marriage seemed better than their friend's parents' marriage, then why aren't the two of you still together. Children won't understand why you're not seeking help in order to fix the problem. Ultimately, they feel like they just aren't worth it to you.

You certainly don't want that for your kids do you?

Kristie Brown writes on a variety of topics from health to technology. Check out her websites on marriage advice and stop divorce