Couples Need to Fight Fair

You will have a hard time finding a couple that doesn't fight, at least every once in a while. It would take a perfect couple indeed to avoid fighting during a marriage. You never want to keep your true feelings to yourself though, as they would keep building up inside and lead to issues in the future unless they're addressed.

Although fighting can be beneficial at times, you don't want to go overboard with it. Couples need to focus on fighting fair with each other. Make sure you keep reading to learn about what fighting fair is all about.

You don't want to say anything to really upset your partner when you're having an argument. Calling your partner names, being sarcastic, or passive-aggressive won't do anything to solve the problems. If you make the mistake of doing either of those things, then you will certainly have a harder time solving your true issues since your partner will become much more defensive.

We usually have no problems remembering the times when others have done us wrong. However, you shouldn't throw up your partner's past transgressions whenever you're fighting. Neither of you should bring up past problems during the argument since you will easily get off track.

Whenever you fight with your spouse, it actually needs to be about something. Don't just fight for the sake of fighting. If you're facing certain issues, then you should try to resolve those issues. That means having a specific issue that you're trying to address and only discussing that issue.

You shouldn't try to win all of the battles over the course of your relationship. You won't do your marriage much good if you're only concerned about winning arguments instead of improving your marriage. Compromise will definitely help your marriage last a long time.

As mentioned, some couples like to keep their feelings bottled up sometimes. Whenever an issue presents itself in your marriage, you need to address it as soon as possible. It's usually not good to reserve addressing problems later down the road. If you try to address your problems as quickly as possible, then you will get over them much more quickly.

I'm sure you've heard that it's best for couples not to go to bed angry. That's quite true. Before either of you goes to bed, try to work out your problems. Don't just leave the issue unresolved, or it will likely just come up later. Make sure that you're honest with each other and let your voice be heard. Doc No. 34Sdlhgsdl -sds

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