How Do I Just Say Goodbye After All These Years of Marriage?

It's hard to walk away from your marriage and the person who has been a major part of your life for many years. Divorce is tough on everyone involved. In many ways though it's toughest on the one who didn't want it and feels like he or she has no choice in the matter.

You might be feeling an odd combination of boiling anger bordering on rage and extreme sorrow followed by a chaser of guilt. All of these feelings are understandable though they can be a little confusing when you're the one who's experiencing them.

Don't Push Yourself

Goodbye is one of those words that seems so final. You don't have to say goodbye just yet. Your divorce is new. You don't have to be ready to embrace it. In fact, it would be surprising and extremely sad if you were able to do so that quickly.

Give yourself a little time to recover from the loss of a partner you've shared your life, hopes, dreams, and love with for many years.

Goodbye is a hard word to say in the best of circumstances. Don't rush to say it now. In fact, now is a good time not to say anything. Just walk away without a word until you can get a handle on your emotions. Give yourself the time you need to grieve and begin the healing process.

Learn to Say Something Else Instead

Divorce papers do not mean the end of your relationship. If you decide to see things this way you can learn to appreciate the fact that it's never over until you give up on it. Divorce papers are just legal documents.

Just as the marriage license you received on your wedding day didn't define your marriage, the divorce papers do not define when, how, or even if your marriage ends. Only you can decide that.

It's one thing to give up. It's another thing to step back; collect your thoughts, regroup, and come up with an effective strategy to make your marriage work.

It's not too late to start over. As long as you refuse to say goodbye and choose so long or until later instead you still have a change to make it work out for the two of you.

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